I know that "wardrobe malfunctions" may happen sometimes. Even when dressed modestly, the wind can blow up a skirt or a hungry baby can pull down a mothers top (been there!). You can not always protect against these things happening. But what happened to that little girl on the carousel could have been prevented. Should have been prevented.
There was a time when I would not have thought much about a young girl wearing short shorts. It wasn't that long ago that I dressed my own (then 2 year old) daughter in a bikini. I have also dressed her in short shorts, halter tops, etc. in the name of fashion. Interestingly, I thought that I was dressing her modestly. And even by the church's "standard" - I was! But God has begun a work of transformation in my heart about modesty.
Most importantly - modesty is a heart issue - and something that God desires of us. The best way to raise modest daughters is for us to model modesty for them. But, I have also considered that we live in a sinful, fallen world - and there is evil. There are men that desire young girls and prey on them. Disgusting as it is - these men find little girls' bodies attractive - they like that little girls do not have hair on their bodies and are not developed. There is this idea that clothing considered immodest for a teenager - is okay on a young girl because they are not "developed" yet. It is even considered adorable to see a little girl dressed in a very "grown-up" outfit. The truth is, it is not acceptable or "adorable". We need to protect the innocence of our young girls. As a mom, how could I ever put my daughter in a position in which she might be desired by men because of the clothing she is wearing?
Another problem with this line of thinking is - what do you do when your daughter hits puberty? If you have been dressing her in skimpy bathing suits, short shorts and backless dresses - how do you explain to your twelve year old that it is suddenly not okay? There will come a moment when you will see your little girl in the same clothes she has been wearing for years - but you will see her and those clothes in a very different light. You will see her curves being accented in those short shorts or her bra straps hanging out of her tank top - and think, that is not appropriate! But why was it appropriate a year ago? It will be easier if you begin teaching your daughter to have a heart for modesty from a very young age. If she has never been permitted to wear certain clothing, it will not become as much of a battle during those hormonal teenage years.
But I want to go even deeper than that...maybe you are not wearing revealing clothing on your daughters...but again, I say - modesty is a heart issue. What is the purpose of the clothing you are choosing for your daughter?
- Are you choosing it to so that she will "fit in" (popular styles)?
"Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect." Romans 12:2
- Are you choosing it to feel good about yourself (living vicariously through her)?
"For all that is in the world—the desires of the flesh and the desires of the eyes and pride in possessions—is not from the Father but is from the world." 1 John 2:16
- Are you excusing it based on activities (dance/sports)?
"Live as people who are free, not using your freedom as a cover up for evil, but living as servants of God." 1 Peter 2:16
"Do not let your adorning be external—the braiding of hair and the putting on of gold jewelry, or the clothing you wear— but let your adorning be the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which in God's sight is very precious."
I encourage you to seek God on the matter of modesty. Pray. Seek His wisdom and guidance. He will show you what he desires of you. As it was for me, you may not be dressing your daughter in clothing that meets the world's standard of inappropriate - but what is the intention behind the clothing you wear on her? Don't get me wrong - I really love fashion. I enjoy shopping, I love dressing my daughters in cute clothes and accessorizing with beautiful things. My five year old daughter does too. She absolutely loves clothes, purses, shoes, necklaces, etc. God created us as women to enjoy beautiful things. But, I want to challenge you to take a hard look at and seek God on the matter of your daughter's wardrobe.
Here is an awesome video about modesty in swimwear from Rey Swimwear >
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What are your thoughts on modesty?