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The Noticing Jar

This is my FAVORITE tool to inspire positive behavior in my children. I am a strong believer in Conscious Discipline, which teaches that what you focus on you get more of. So if you focus on the negative, they will associate negative behavior with attention from you. So let's focus on the positive!



Create a Noticing Jar

Use a mason jar or any other large jar.
Decorate the outside of the jar with the child's name.

When you notice the child making a good choice, having positive behavior, being helpful, kind, etc. you tell them that you noticed their behavior, that you are proud of them and have them place a ball (pom pom from the dollar store) in their jar.



The point here is that they are not receiving an immediate reward, only praise from you. We want children to learn to do the right thing because it is the right thing to do. The exciting part for them comes in the final result - Once they have filled their jar, they will get to have a Celebration of their success. My children are currently working towards going to Chuck E Cheese (their choice). In the past they have worked towards a bowling night and going to the zoo. Let the child choose what they want the celebration to be (within reason, and within your budget!).

Enjoy!! Please share this with other moms and leave feedback if you use it and let me know how it worked for your family :)

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  1. UnknownMay 21, 2013 at 12:38 PM

    This is a wonderful idea!! I struggle with discipline, and i do believe that what you focus on, you get. Going to try this!!

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    1. UnknownMay 21, 2013 at 7:20 PM

      Thank you! Let me know how it works for you :)

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